New year, new me? That’s pretty cliche. I used to think new year’s resolutions were great. “What a perfect way to rebrand myself and start anew”, I thought. As I get older, though, I’m finding that this mindset is changing. Bettering yourself is always great. We always have room to grow and become a stronger version of ourselves. When the new year hits, I like to reassess things – just step back and take a look at my goals and what direction my life is taking. Then, from there, I like to plan and adjust or set new goals based on what I want to accomplish over the next year. To me,
To me, goals are more attainable and realistic than resolutions. In a sense, I find the term “resolution” has a bit of a negative connotation. When we fight with someone, we resolve it. So, it’s a means taking something from being bad to being good. A goal, however, is something we want to achieve. It’s something realistic, that we can reach by taking small steps rather than one big change off the get-go.
2016 was a pretty good year for me, for the most part. I graduated college and made so much career progress. I became even closer with my boyfriend and we bought our first home together. I opened up to allow more positivity to enter my life. I matured, grew and felt pride in myself. With that, however, there were some negatives. I continued to face my anxiety, which was often a struggle. I had to let go of people from my life that weren’t making me happy.
With that, however, there were some negatives. I continued to face my anxiety, which was often a struggle. I had to let go of people from my life that weren’t making me happy. I suffered from a large number of migraines which caused me to miss out on many things.
Regardless, all those “good” and “bad” things during 2016 benefitted me, in some form or another. Every single thing that happened led me to where I am right now, at this very minute. Each of those moments, I’ve used to shape my goals and direction for 2017. And what are those goals, you ask? Well, let’s talk about that.
Be more positive and optimistic
This has been my continuous goal for the last number of years. I don’t keep going back to it because I don’t reach it – I go back to it because it’s never something that can be perfected. Positivity isn’t easy. Letting go of negative thoughts and allowing optimistic ones in takes a lot of practice and dedication.
Although I make this a goal each year, I try and find a new particular aspect to tackle. This year, I’m focusing on not letting mundane, little things to bother me. Life is short, and life is beautiful. Sure there is a lot of bad things that can occur, but happiness can always be found somehow.
I am aiming to look for the good in every situation. One way I will work on this is by continuing to write at least one positive thing that happened that week. This has proved successful for me in the past, so why fix what’s not broken?
I have had at least 10 unread books sitting on my shelf for the last year. I just never seem to have the time to read anymore. Between work, volunteering and spending time with family and friends, there just doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day.
This year, I want to try to read before bed. It doesn’t have to be much, but just enough to get me back in the habit. Maybe a few chapters at a time, or a few pages. Just something to keep me on track.
My ultimate goal is to finish at least 6 books by the end of the year. Thay may not seem like much, but when I don’t get to read that often, that’s fairly reasonable target.
Budget and spend money wisely
My boyfriend and I just bought our first home, so this is a big one. This is my first year not in school and working full-time year-round. Helllllooooo adulthood! I’ll be honest, I’ve never had to really budget in my personal life before, so this is new for me, but I know we can do it!
With my organization skills, I have full faith that we can budget and budget well. Neither my boyfriend or I spend that neglectfully either, so we have that going for us. We are quite good at only buying what we need, and carefully making “want” purchases based on sales and deals.
Our ultimate goal here is to be able to pay all of our bills and necessary expenses, and also have some money left for fun things, like date nights, clothes, etc.
Focus on people who care equally about me as I do them
This last year put a lot of things into perspective to me. Due to a few different situations that occurred, I realized how much of a waste of time it is to focus on people that couldn’t care less about me. I’m a very caring person and have always trusted people easily. More times that I’d like to admit, this has come back to bite me.
I want to try my hardest this year to let go of toxic people in my life. This includes anyone that makes me feel poorly about myself, speaks ill towards my family and friends, or ultimately does not respect me. I no longer want that kind of drama and anxiety in my life.
I know I deserve to be happy. Everyone does. But the longer I hold on to anger or negative feelings, the harder it is for me to be happy. So, this year, I want to spend time with those that love and respect me; those that treat me honestly and justly. I have some amazing people in my life – I want to enjoy every moment with them and just be happy.
Work hard…but not too hard
I love my job and career. It’s fun, exciting and I’m always learning. But I also love down-time and relaxing. I tend to be busy a lot, between work and volunteering, which sometimes can cause me to neglect “me time”.
Now that I’m moving into my own house, I think this will be a bit easier. Currently, my boyfriend and I try to spend as much time together as possible, which makes it hard to do other things at times. By living together, we will be together all the time, so other activities with friends and such will be more manageable.
Work is important, but so is alone time and fun time. Self-care is a huge thing for me, as it helps me keep my anxiety under control. This year, I want to take more time for myself, like taking baths, doing at-home spa nights, and ultimately relaxing. I also want to go on more frequent “dates nights” with my boyfriend, and spend more time with my best friends.
I truly have a feeling that 2017 is going to be great. Already, after just a few weeks, things are looking up for me. New house, new job, new outlook. Let’s hope that things just get better from here!
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